On Second Glance

So often it is easy to see things from one perspective: our own.

From a different angle, we unveil a whole new aspect; Bo has no idea he has complete heterochromia, he can only see the world in the way he was given: through his own eyes.  As a more aware observer, the world should be viewed in more than one aspect than simply our own, and we should always embrace (even if we do not necessarily accept) a different perspective.

PS: my computer is down for the count; as I look into a new one, I will post more once I have it..  Hopefully by week’s end I will be back up and running (can’t wait!) Thanks for your patience, sorry for the absence : )

true that

3-1 approaches: there are a few things i have come to realize, if not more.

we will never be where others want us, or doing what they want, or be able to make them [all] happy all the time.  the more we attempt to do so, the more we will lose ourselves and consequently the less happy (and more stressed) we will be.  Lucille Ball was quoted as saying “love yourself first and everything else falls into place.”  when we love ourselves first, only then will we be putting that energy out to be returned for us and to us.  we should be accepting of others, forgiving of their potential mistakes or wrongdoings..  simply let things be as they are -and accept that.  the less judgement we have of others and the way they live their [own] lives, the freer we will be to make sure we are doing what we want with our own.

the moment i find my mind wandering into possible judgement of the older woman with the weird tattoo on the back of her leg, or the mother who is teaching her young daughter that other people should bend over backwards to serve her, i catch myself: that woman may have gotten the tattoo in memory of a lost loved one, and the mother with her daughter is simply doing her best; i will never know the truth about them if i simply judge.  i myself have been judged (many call me weird.  weird! lol), but i have also learned that if you go about life with a truly open mind, it not only allows you to let go of the pressure that would potentially cause anger at someone, but it allows space for you to evaluate the most important person you should know: yourself.  when you create space between judgement of other people, their lives, their appearance, etc, you can truly get to know yourself better.  we are all on some kind of journey, and none of us are in any position to judge another..  once i clear my head of judgement, i find myself able to sincerely ask the woman about her tattoo, or to set an example of humanity and compassion to the mother and her young daughter simply by being genuine and kind to her, regardless of how i view her parenting style.

we will never know what another person is thinking.  the more we can love and accept ourselves, the more honestly and clearly we ourselves will be able to speak and communicate with others, which in turn will allow them to show their true side to you.  love can be found, lies uncovered, true intentions brought to light, even if the another attempts to hide it.  you will find those who respect you, support you, who truly love you, who want to see you smile and shine, as long as you are true to yourself.  –actually, they will find you.

i’d like to think that i am older and wiser, and perhaps i am, but there is still so much more to learn!  i know that in another couple of years (or less) i will look back much as i do now, and think “sheesh, i was so young and stupid,” so i am accepting the fact that while i may be wiser than i was when i turned 21, i still have quite a-ways to go in the wisdom division –giving myself credit where credit is due.

what matters most is loving yourself.  when we are strong and brave enough to love ourselves, the rest does actually fall into place.  it’s a very calm, serene place…  it opens a space that will allow the world to bring to you what you truly need (not necessarily only what you may want).  be gentle, be soft, be forgiving and loving of yourself, and always be able to laugh at yourself : )  it takes strength, courage, and tolerance.

try it for even just one moment: stop what you are doing.  take a deep breath, and let go.  What do you feel?

“It is great and beautiful, to be happy from the little things”  - Jeremias Gotthelf

time to ring in another good new year : )

ps – if “no one is perfect,” wouldn’t it also be true that we then are all perfect?..

Lost in the Lotto Lab

“Either there are no illusions or everything is an illusion, and given that we are pretty much all delusional, you might as well choose your delusion.”  -Beau Lotto

Beau on CNN Health: The Power of Perceptions

Fri-Dalai

“Disturbing emotions not only disturb our own state of mind, they also disturb the minds of others. Self-centredness gives rise to fear and insecurity, which in turn creates distrust. This is why having an altruistic attitude brings a great sense of happiness and peace of mind.”

-Dalai Lama

Let’s do our best to keep things peaceful, and our words impeccable.

Happy & safe Easter weekend everyone!

Chews wisely

(Bag of gummi bears from the Publix supermarket.  Thx Publix!)

What’s wrong with this picture?

Over the last year, my dad has been seeing a few women..

..at the dentist’s office!  He’s had extensive work done including extractions, bridgework, root canals and crowns.  The lower row of his front teeth all needed crowns, while the extractions came from the back, top and bottom.  This dentist (not going to spread her name… she doesn’t deserve any possible notoriety) practices under the label (bc yes, it is just a label) of “Cosmetic Dentist” – it’s in the name of her practice, though not through much further investigating, the ADA recognizes her only as “General Practice.”

I was called in to supervise a few of his sessions on the work they were doing on him, after he complained about pain caused by a Valplast partial.  I went bloodhounding.  When I saw the partial they had molded for him (and also expected him to put in his mouth, wear and chew w/), I was literally horrified. I actually don’t even know if all of this work was necessary… *sigh, with an exclamation!

With due respect to the product, I was more horrified (and possibly, maybe, yes a bit outraged) that the dentist would let him walk out with something that had visibly super sharp edges which ended up cutting his gums as he simply followed their instructions on use.  Not mentioning the way the dentist jerked and jolted his jaw while in the chair trying to adjust, readjust, fit, re-fit this contraption.  : (

No bueno.

When I went in with him, I had to ask her how she could let a senior citizen walk out of her office with a product like that, and if she was proud of the work.  Maybe she was under the impression that since others do not hold her accountable, she shouldn’t have to care?  She didn’t know I was coming.

My dad is a pretty hardcore, pain-toleratin’ kind of guy, but that was over the top even for him.  Not only are we now dealing between the dentist and the insurance company, but he is still unable to bite or chew properly, and has to have the work re-done by someone who knows what they are doing.

Simple point(s) being:
1) Beware of a dentist working as a “cosmetic dentist” – it sounds good, looks pretty, but it is not an official field of dentistry recognized by the ADA!  (furthermore, take into consideration the fact that if the dentist is good, they will not need to include “Cosmetic” in their title) –perhaps the cosmetic part comes in by her office offering Botox.  Guess you may as well add in a facial filler treatment to a cavity fill?  Wiki-it :

2) Valplast Flexible Partials – I consulted my dentist of over 10 yrs about it, and they do work for some people.  My dad did not have ample support for these to be attached and to use as a means of actual teeth (to bite, chew), and thus they ended up shifting and chaffing and ultimately cutting his gums.  If multiple posterior (back) teeth are missing, implants must be put into place as supports for this flexible bridge to be effective!  They can also require quite an extensive adjustment time to get them fitting comfortably.

3) Know your HIPAA - if you want to leave a provider, or simply want to request your records in order to get a 2nd opinion, they have no right to question you on why you want your file and/or if you are leaving them (this also happened w/ this particular dentist when I suggested they get a 2nd opinion).

Since he is retired, time wasn’t a huge factor but he spent a lot of it, as well as the pain he endured getting these things adjusted, and we ended up simply giving them back.  I clearly saw his need for implants even as they were attempting to fit this crown –and I’ve spent 0 years in dental school.  Yes, implants are expensive.  Though the pain, money, time and effort put into this bridge as well as the crowns could have been saved by simply doing an implant.

Again, I ask: WHO o who takes care of older people if they have no one standing up for them??  Karma is one thing, but when it comes to the person on the shorter end of that stick, someone’s got to be there for them, especially if it’s one of my parents, and especially if it concerns their health and well-being.  I love my parents and will do what I can to stand up for them and help them in any way, I only wish everyone had someone looking out for them in order to avoid situations such as this.

I urge anyone to do research before they go to any healthcare provider to find out more about them.  Also look into any medications, products, services that are potentially suggested! — “Google it” at least to see what you find –it now takes about .2 of a millisecond to do it.  Currently and unfortunately there isn’t really a reputable service for this state full of retirees and older crowd to find an established and trusted healthcare provider — again, Mr. President… healthcare…?  Somehow we’ve managed to get along how we have been, but at this point in time it seems unacceptable that we cannot do better than simply “getting along.”  We can find more information on where to go/eat/sleep/learn/play/_____ , yet the entire healthcare provider-sphere remains a giant mass of unknown “stuff.”

It’s clear that we could all use a little help.

Rx$

There truly is something wrong with this system when the price for this prescription ranges from $0 up to $33.99 –without insurance.

Recently went to the dermatologist and received a prescription for a general antibiotic.  Currently without health insurance, you can guess I was a tad apprehensive about finding out just how much this would cost to fill.
My first call?  Walgreens.  $26, though they have a discount card available (which you must pay $20 for), that would save me -in the long run, about $12 per refill (3 needed).  Hm.
Next call, Wal-Mart: $10.  Ok, we’re getting better.
CVS? a whopping $33.99!  (though I should say they also offer a discount card… yay.)
And the final call went to our local (and somewhat hoity) grocery chain, Publix..  my savior: $0.

Thankfully, Publix provides antibiotics at no charge – wow, and thank you.  As I just found out, they also provide generic antibiotics for teachers as well.  Of course it begs the question “how can they do this, when others can’t?” (or maybe they simply won’t?), granted the price of their groceries probably covers that, but that’s beside the point ; )  Their one condition?  I have to go back every 2 weeks for a refill.. still less cost than any other option, and given I ride my bicycle, it falls into a double benefit as part of a fun workout.  *Oh Darn.

If I think outside of my 30-yr old self, and think more like someone who is over 80 and needs prescriptions (perhaps more than just one general antibiotic), am I supposed to call each place for the best price?  If I’m 85 and not on the internet, I would have to go to a phone book (if those still exist!), look up the numbers in the tiniest font possibly typed, call hopefully what is the pharmacy number (yea, Wal-Mart couldn’t xfr me, they actually gave me a separate # to call) then wait on hold, hope I can pronounce the name of the medication correctly, and finally get a price.  Oh wait, the other option would be to drive to each place.  Seriously?  It’s fine for me of my somewhat already limited able-mind to get to the comp or phone to look this stuff up, but for someone older, it’s no wonder they get taken advantage of when it comes to (the most important?!?) things like healthcare – simple as filling a prescription.  @#$%!  Outrageous.

Furthermore when I consider that my Rx has 3 refills, that would cost over $100 total — which again, is still fine for me who is able to work..  but for an elderly person on a fixed income… that’s not nothing.

Who oh who helps those in need when there is simply no one else to help with these “little” things?  Who educates us on this?  Um, Mr. President…..*?*  …. The Healthcare “system” is as absent as Bueller was.. and is still enjoying it’s day off.

(Oh, and as the above Rx bottle indicates, I have apparently changed my name to “Breatrix” — usually it’s my last name that gets put on the block!)

Mum’s the word

My mom makes some of the most incredible edible creations in the kitchen…  mMmm nom nomm..  Here, some cookies she baked for Christmas (there were other shapes as well, but they somehow vanished b4 I was able to photograph em.  oOops).  An amazingly strong woman (with infinite amounts of patience!), she inspires me to go further, learn more, and be more patient with everything really;  she endures.  She makes me laugh my a** off, she drives me crazy, and I couldn’t love her more <3   Here’s to my mum!

Fooling around w/ the forward-facing cam on my phone a while back yielded the ear-lickin’ pic (lol)-  The other is of her nom nom Christmas cookies b4 they were devoured  :)

Reminder

Recently saw this pop up on a friend’s Facebook post.  Wonderful message, and as “mere humans,” it is really nice to see this displayed as a reminder of how pure life and love should be.  If this is ultimately what we would want, then we must be able to put it out there from within ourselves – we get what we give, we reep what we sow;  Clear the slate from the possible past wrongs, keep the wisdom gained from them, and put the best part of your heart forward.

Love

This is posted in the garden of a Thai temple located in Tampa, FL; I appreciated the reminder
*^^*
(Click on the pic to visit their site and get more details)

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